Friday, February 10, 2006

'Something New'

I really enjoyed 'Something New'. I saw it last week with a bunch of female friends and we all liked the movie. Before I went, I had an interesting conversation with a colleague. I'll call him Trevor. It's a three part conversation, so bear with me.
Pt. I.
Trevor: Strength/Courage/Wisdom, what are you doing this weekend?
Me: Not much. I'm going to the movies.
Trevor: Are you going to see 'Something New'?
Me: (laughs) Yes, I am.
Him: So am I. We should see it together, since we represent what the movie is about.
Me: True. Or maybe you could join me and my group in seeing the movie. That way, you'll have a bunch of black women to choose from.
Him: Right. We should definitely talk after the movie. I'm sure I'll have questions.
Me: I may have questions too.
Him: But I may have more questions.
Me: True.
Pt. II.
(The week after I saw the movie)
Him: So what'd you think?
Me: I really liked the movie. I thought it was very well done.
Him: So it talked about racial harmony and how we shouldn't judge each other by race.
Me: Yep.
Him: You don't have a problem with interracial dating do you?
Me: No. If it wasn't for interracial dating, you wouldn't be here. (Side note: This guy is very ethnic looking, dark skin, curly hair. He says no one else in his family looks like him. I think his mother took a lova that was a brotha, but I digress)
Him: I'm asking because I know alot of black women don't like interracial dating.
Me: I know.
Him: Alot of black women get mad when they see black men with white women.
Me: (silence)
Him: You're not one of those, are you?
Me: Ask me another time.
Him: (laughs) You mean when they're aren't a bunch of white people around?
Me: Exactly!

Pt. III.
Trevor: So I saw the movie.
Me: So what'd you think.
Him: I thought it was well done. But it depressed me.
Me: Why?
Him: Because it seems like there were so many barriers, so many unspoken rules ...
Me: Like the black tax stuff? And the part about the hair?
Him: (nods)
Me: Well, I can tell you one thing, we are very sensitive about our hair. That subject is best avoided by a white boyfriend.
Him: Yeah, so I saw.
(conversation shifted from then on, started talking about men on the DL, which is another post for another day)

Truth is, I'm a hypocrite. I don't have a major problem seeing black women with white men, but I can't say the same when the situation is reversed. Maybe it's because I grew up in a neighborhood where all the black boys preferred the white girls. Throughout high school, I had a crush on a boy who thought of me as his good friend, while he lusted after every white girl around. It was painful. I remain friends with Crush -- who attended an HBCU no doubt -- and try to be supportive of his relationship with a white woman. I doubt I'll ever work up the nerve to ask him why he prefers these Mary Janes, but I already know how he'd react. He'd look at me like I was crazy and tell me it was no big deal. Then he'd go on about how I was an Angry Black Woman and I needed to just let it go. Well, I'm trying. Slowly but surely, I'll get past my animosity. And who knows, maybe in 2006 I'll be trying Something New.


Juicy77 said...

Let us know when he finally asks you out...because I know he's going to. :o)

Strength/Courage/Wisdom said...

Whateva, man! He's crazy ... deranged. And waaaaay too young -- as if crazy wasn't enough! =)

Dr. Bi said...

you know trevor is a west indian name right? and you know that song "ebony and ivory" and that other song "jungle fever" how do they both end.....?

Strength/Courage/Wisdom said...

Um, no... how do those songs end?