Monday, April 23, 2007

Back at It


I'd apologize for my absence, but I know ya'll are about as tired of hearing my excuses as I am about writing them. The truth is, I couldn't get inspired to write about anything lately. I was going to write about the nuptials of The Extremes, which I attended a week ago, but then I had a death in the family. Plus, the drama at Virginia Tech also saddened me. But I've dusted myself off and I'm back at the blog.

It occurred to me the other day that since November, I've been to three funerals and one wedding. It sounds like an awful twist on a Hugh Grant movie, but it's true. Most recently, my grandmother -- my stepfather's mother -- passed away. The doctors told us to prepare ourselves for her death months ago, but we were all hoping for the best. And even though we talked to her about death and dying several times, all of us were shocked when we learned about her passing.

I don't want to get too emotional here -- cuz Lord knows I've cried too much in the last couple of weeks -- but Mrs C was the last grandmother I'll ever have. When my Mom first met her son 14 years ago, she welcomed us both into the family with open arms. Being the stubborn teenager that I was, I tried my best to keep her, my stepdad, and the rest of his family at arm's length. But she wouldn't give up on me and always called just to see how I was doing, sending me money whether I needed it or not and feeding me until I was ready to explode.
In my top drawer, I still have a letter that she sent me in 2000 when I moved away from home and started my first job. "I have so much love in my heart for you. I feel you are also a part of me," she wrote. "... As you start out (in life) be careful whom you choose and trust no one." And as usual, there was a check inside.

Anyway, she's gone now and we traveled down south for the funeral, which was over the weekend. Because I am who I am, I needed to find something to laugh about to get me through this marathon of funerals that I've experienced in the last few months. In two of them -- Mrs. C's included -- they had choirs where all the singers were 80 or older. Not that there's anything wrong with having an elderly choir -- if they can sing. On both occasions, the choirs sounded eerily similar to the way I do when I'm singing "The Sound of Music" in the shower. Note: It ain't pretty. Mom agreed with me and together we devised a list of people who would be banned from singing at our own funerals. It was a bit of a morbid conversation, but it got us through.

7 comments:

MotownRunnerGirl said...

I'm glad you're back. I missed you. I'm sorry about your grandma. We all need more grandmas like her.

Strength/Courage/Wisdom said...

Aw, thanks. I missed you too.

liz said...

I am so sorry for your losses. I know that kind of stubborn, and it just doesn't happen to teens. That was me, in my late 30-somethings when my daddy remarried -- the first sweetie he had that he left when he met my mom in the 1940s -- 10 years after my mother had passed. Today I am grateful that my stepmom has given my daddy new life and that he's still with us at 87. May your memories see you through.

Tha L said...

Glad you're back and safe.Although it's a normal part of life, none of us expects to have to go to so many funerals in such a short period of time(unless we're 80 and all our homies start dyin'off). Anyway, ruff times mean better times ahead. And I love your sense of humor!

Juicy77 said...

I'm so sorry. I had no idea you were so close to her. You seemed so calm. :o(

Smiling Sista said...

Peace to you, my sistuh. And, yes, your sense of humor is refreshing and should, indeed, see you through.

Mlle Smith said...

Shucks, hugs from us. I'm sorry for your loss...it has indeed been difficult to feel inspired as of late - for me because of the VA thing.

Well, I'm happy that you're back. :0)